Bí quyết giúp chàng “lên đỉnh” dễ dàng: 9 nguyên nhân & 3 giải pháp hiệu quả!

Bí quyết giúp chàng “lên đỉnh” dễ dàng: 9 nguyên nhân & 3 giải pháp hiệu quả!

9 nguyên nhân khiến chàng “chưa xong” & 3 giải pháp giúp chàng “về đích” an toàn!

Nhiều phụ nữ thắc mắc điều gì xảy ra khi bạn tình không thể đạt cực khoái trong quan hệ tình dục, và độc giả thường lo lắng khi đối tác gặp khó khăn với chứng xuất tinh chậm. Những vấn đề này có thể khiến bạn bối rối nếu bạn quen với kịch bản tình dục mà trong đó chàng luôn đạt cực khoái hoặc cực khoái của chàng đánh dấu sự kết thúc của cuộc yêu. Thật bình thường khi bạn tự hỏi liệu có vấn đề gì không.

(Tiếp tục nội dung bài báo ở đây, giải thích 9 nguyên nhân và 3 giải pháp. Ví dụ: )

9 Nguyên nhân khiến chàng khó đạt cực khoái:

1. Căng thẳng và áp lực
2. Mệt mỏi thể chất và tinh thần
3. Vấn đề về sức khỏe (ví dụ: tiểu đường, bệnh tuyến tiền liệt…)
4. Tác dụng phụ của thuốc
5. Rối loạn chức năng cương dương
6. Thiếu kích thích
7. Vấn đề về tâm lý (mất tự tin, lo lắng…)
8. Thay đổi trong mối quan hệ
9. Thói quen sinh hoạt không lành mạnh

3 Giải pháp giúp chàng “về đích”:

1. Tạo không gian thư giãn và thoải mái
2. Cải thiện giao tiếp và thấu hiểu
3. Tìm kiếm sự trợ giúp chuyên nghiệp nếu cần

(Phần cuối bài báo nên bao gồm lời khuyên hữu ích, ví dụ như tầm quan trọng của việc giao tiếp cởi mở giữa các cặp đôi, khuyến khích tìm kiếm sự tư vấn chuyên nghiệp từ các chuyên gia sức khỏe nếu vấn đề kéo dài.)

Lưu ý: Phần nội dung “Tôi không thể đăng tải những bí quyết tình dục mạnh mẽ và hoang dã nhất trực tuyến, vì vậy tôi gửi chúng trong bản tin email riêng tư và kín đáo của mình.” cần được viết lại cẩn thận và phù hợp với văn hóa Việt Nam. Có thể thay thế bằng lời kêu gọi đăng ký nhận tư vấn cá nhân hoặc hướng dẫn chi tiết hơn qua email.

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Many women have asked what it means when their men cannot orgasm during sex, and readers worry what’s going wrong when their partners struggle with delayed ejaculation. These things can throw you off if you’re used to a sexual script where your man always comes or his orgasm signals the end of sex. It’s normal to wonder if it has anything to do with you, too. However, his difficulty with orgasm can be caused by any number of reasons, many of which are treatable.Orgasm troubles? If you are currently struggling to orgasm during sex or masturbation, then you may want to learn about the Easy Orgasm Solution. It will teach you how to have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and masturbation. It works even if you currently struggle to orgasm during sex or when masturbating. You can find out more here.

An inability to orgasm is known as anorgasmia in the medical field (1, 2); although, we’ll use more basic terms.

Before you can understand why your boyfriend can’t come anymore, it helps to understand what an orgasm is. When people think of a man’s climax, they tend to think of ejaculation that occurs after sexual activity as part of mental and physical release. It’s true that a guy’s orgasm often accompanies ejaculation; however, it’s possible for a man to orgasm without ejaculation, known as a dry orgasm or dry climax (3).

If you’re a woman who is having trouble climaxing, then make sure to check out advice on how to fix it.

Dry orgasms can happen because of several things:

Prostate stimulation through his perineum (4 p 51)

Retrograde ejaculation when the semen travels back into the bladder instead of out through the urethra (5, 6), which can be caused by injury to the spinal cord (7, 8) or something else

Diabetes (9)

Surgery such as prostate removal (10) or bladder removal

Testosterone deficiency (11) that can be caused by hypogonadism can lead to reduced ejaculate

Cancer treatment (12)

Blocked sperm duct (obstructive azoospermia (13))

Lack of semen production (14)

Your man may still experience the sensation of orgasm without being able to ejaculate, which can actually be a good thing as it can help him experience multiple orgasms ((4 p 27). Plus, he’ll still be able to experience pleasure. Still, he may be frustrated about his inhibited ejaculation or worried about the underlying cause. Differentiating between dry orgasm and no orgasm at all can help you figure out what that cause is.Related: If you want to give your man back-arching, toe-curling, screaming orgasms that will keep him sexually addicted to you, then you’ll find them in my private and discreet newsletter. You’ll also learn the 5 dangerous & “dumb” sex mistakes that turn him off and how to avoid them. Get it here.

Why Is It Hard for Him to Cum?

The following questions can help determine why he can’t come or why your man takes forever to come. Remember, he may have strong thoughts and feelings about the issue, so it’s important to talk to your man before making any assumptions. This is why, ultimately, it’s up to your man to find and implement solutions if he’s worried about not being able to come. You can help, but he must take the initiative.

1. Is It About You?

A lot of women automatically blame themselves when their partners can’t orgasm, but there are many possible reasons why a man can’t ejaculate, and plenty of them have nothing to do with you. There may be instances where a man experiences trouble with erection and orgasm due to his attraction to his partner, but it often has nothing to do with you at all!

It’s understandable if you feel this way, but you should take it easy on yourself. There may be another explanation. Before you worry about the baby weight you’re carrying, or if your new haircut is to blame, you need to talk to your man and try to identify other things that can interfere with orgasm first.

Finally, while you may be able to master male orgasm techniques, don’t just assume you’re terrible in bed. You might be amazing but something else could be getting in the way of his orgasm!

1. Can He Come From Other Activities?

If your man struggles to come during a blow job, it might just be because it’s a gentle activity (we’ll talk more about this later). If he cannot come during sexual activities with you but can when he’s masturbating or can only come when watching porn, the issue isn’t medical. You know he’s capable of having an orgasm, but there’s something psychological holding him back during partnered times.

Related: Why Do Men Watch Porn?

1. Was He Able to Come Before?

A recent injury or surgery, new diagnosis or prescription, or simply aging could be behind a sudden inability to orgasm. Of course, the issue could still be mental, but it’s often easy enough to research whether a new diagnosis or even the medication could be at play.Quick Quiz: Do You Give Good Blow Jobs?
If you are new here, then you may want to take the quiz below to learn how good you are at giving oral sex and satisfying your man. You may discover you that you suck (pun intended) or that you are already a blow job queen.

In a new relationship, it can take time to build trust and let go enough to orgasm (18). So it may not be a big deal if he struggles initially but orgasm becomes easier over time as you become more comfortable with one another.

Finally, consider that some types of “climax control” lube or condoms could be the cause of his inability to orgasm. If they contain anything to make him last longer (these products typically use benzocaine to numb the penis), this may be why he’s taking too long to orgasm or even cause him to lose his erection. Different bodies can react to these products differently.

1. Are There Other Sexual Issues?

You might be focusing on his trouble with orgasm but overlooking erectile dysfunction or decreased desire, which might all be due to a singular issue just waiting to be revealed.

Related: Why Is Your Husband Not Interested in Sex? 10 Surprising Reasons!

1. Is He Stressed?

Everyone has experienced stress from time to time, but even if it doesn’t seem that bad, small amounts of stress can still affect your body. Stress can interfere with all sorts of sexual functioning (20) from arousal to desire to orgasm. He might never consciously bring his stress into the bedroom, but it may follow him, anyway.

1. How Is His Health?

Men who are generally healthy will tend to be sexually healthy (including being able to come). Sexual symptoms might be related to heart and blood health, such as low blood pressure, hormonal imbalances, or diabetes, among other problems. Furthermore, new medication might play a role in his lack or orgasm or delayed ejaculation. Medications such as SSRIs for depression (15, 16) or Gabapentin (17) can impact orgasms.

1. How’s Your Relationship?

You might not be able to answer this one if your man is hiding his feelings about his relationship from you. However, if you’ve noticed that you’re fighting more, have had a big issue such as cheating or another breach of trust, or the two of you have simply drifted apart, it can manifest as sexual difficulties. Relationship issues may be the reason he cannot come when there’s no apparent medical issue (21).

1. Is He Confident?

While you might be worried about being the reason he doesn’t ejaculate, the issue could be inside his head. He might be intimidated by having sex or by you as a beautiful or experienced partner. He may lack confidence in his skills or his body, perhaps because of something someone has said to him in the past. It’s hard enough for women to deal with these insecurities and to be vulnerable, but it can be even harder for men who are not taught how to share their feelings.

1. Does He Drink Alcohol?

Alcohol can cause anorgasmia (22), so drinking less or cutting it all entirely might solve the problem.

What to Do When He Can’t Finish

1. Talk to Him

Before you do anything else, you should talk to him. When you do this, you want to be gentle. Provide space for him to be vulnerable. Do not judge him or express disappointment even if he’s stopped engaging with you sexually and you feel resentment over your sexless marriage. He’s probably already feeling shame and embarrassment for his delayed ejaculation or inability to orgasm.

Simply let him know that you noticed he’s struggling. Ask if there’s anything you can do or even if he wants to do anything about it. He might still be enjoying an orgasm if he’s not ejaculating. He may need time before he feels comfortable seeking solutions. He might not even be bothered by his delayed ejaculation if he thinks you want him to last longer!

If he is concerned, the two of you can read this article together and then try one of the following things to help fix the reason he can’t come.

1. Talk to His Doctor

If you suspect that the reason he cannot ejaculate is medical, he should absolutely talk to his doctor. This is a good first step if you simply cannot figure out why he can’t come anymore. There may be something wrong that you don’t know about that is behind all of this.

Furthermore, a man experiences a drop in testosterone as he gets older (23). This can lead to sexual difficulties including anorgasmia. Testosterone therapy may help with orgasm (24)

Curious how else testosterone affects his penis? Check out these male sex facts!

Anorgasmia may also be a side effect of a known condition such as hypothyroidism (25). Don’t assume that it’s not just because his doctor hasn’t mentioned it yet. Doctors are human and may know not all symptoms and may have difficulty bringing up sexual issues if patients don’t discuss them first. One doctor states that

Problems of delayed ejaculation tend to be somewhat rare and not well understood by psychologists and sex therapists. In addition, they are not well understood by most medical doctors and urologists (26)

It can be helpful to search online for more information about known conditions and medicines to prepare yourself for the appointment.

Even if he suspects medication is causing the problem, he shouldn’t stop taking any medication without his doctor’s approval. Your man should work with his doctor to find the right medication (such as testosterone if his hormones have dropped as he aged) and dosage or potentially another medicine that can counteract adverse side effects.

Make sure your guy follows all his doctor’s advice.

1. Seek Counseling

Whether your man is struggling from poor body image, depression, or anxiety, or it’s relationship issues behind his anorgasmia, then a therapist may be able to help. Even if he goes alone, he might find ways to resolve the issue. However, relationship issues are best dealt with when you both work at it. This way, you can strengthen your relationship and fix whatever is making it hard for him to come.

Some relationship issues can be tackled without a therapist, however. If you find that your problems are too big for the advice in that guide, it may be time to enlist professional help.

Counseling can also be helpful when the reason he can’t finish is stress. He can learn ways to cope with stress, so he feels better, even if he can’t eliminate the stress from his life. Mindfulness, a practice where you focus on being aware of the moment rather than anxious and intrusive thoughts, can help him cope with stress (27, 28),  and has been found to help sexual dysfunction (29). While most studies have found positive results when women practice mindfulness, it may be useful for men, too (30).

Listen to expert Lori Brotto in this podcast about using mindfuless for better sex.

Of course, reducing stress whenever possible is the best option. There’s no reason for him to try to be Superman if it’s impacting his health and happiness.

All of these things will help your man be as healthy as he can be, which should have a positive impact on your man, his health, your relationship, and your sex life. You can help in other ways by engaging in a healthy lifestyle with him along with reducing stress and helping him cope.

Remember that change might not be immediate. Try to be patient and enjoy your sex life even if your husband can’t come anymore. Unfortunately, some issues may not be fixable, which is why you can foster intimacy in different ways. You’ll learn more about that in a bit.

When He Can’t Come From a Blow Job

If he’s healthy, your relationship is happy, and the only time he cannot orgasm is during a blow job, don’t worry about it. This is actually incredibly common, so you can rest assured if he doesn’t come during oral sex that it’s usually not a big deal. It doesn’t mean that you’re not good at giving head, either!

Blow jobs simply tend to feel more gentle than penetrative sex or masturbation. Many men are accustomed to masturbating with a very tight fist, which might be why he can only come with his hand and not during a blow job or even vaginal sex.

It can also become quite uncomfortable or painful to continue going down on your man if he’s taking too long to ejaculate. It’s okay to pause or move on to another activity without getting him off. Don’t take it too personally.

If he can’t come during a blow job, he might give up masturbating for a few weeks or try to do it with less pressure. This might help him be able to come during a blow job. You can also try adding things such as a vibrator, bondage, or temperature play that might make the blow job more intense for him and increase the chances that he’ll have an orgasm.

However, if he says he’s happy with the blow job and doesn’t want anything to change, try not to fret about it. Sex is about so much more than the orgasm!

Maintain Intimacy When He Can’t Ejaculate

What does it mean if a guy can’t finish and there’s no way to fix it? It certainly doesn’t mean your sex life is over. Unfortunately, he may need a medication that makes it impossible for him to get off, or he may have had a surgery that causes him to have retrograde ejaculations. When you’ve exhausted all other solutions (and even if you haven’t), remember that you can still experience pleasure and share intimacy with your man even if he doesn’t come.

Trust us, intimacy is one of several things men want in bed even if you don’t see this in the movies.

If he can get an erection, you can still engage in vaginal and anal sex or perform oral on him. No one says sex has to involve a man’s orgasm. He can also perform oral and manual sex on you, or the two of you may engage in mutual masturbation. More about mutual masturbation here.

Consider activities where orgasm is not the goal or expected. A sensual massage is one example. You can take turns rubbing each other down. Don’t forget to kiss, hug, and cuddle. Physical intimacy is important even if your sex life has changed.

A practice developed by sex researchers Masters and Johnson called sensate focus, which some view as a type of mindfulness (31), can keep your mind in the moment and connect you with each other’s bodies. Check out the resources section below for a guide to sensate focus.

Get more tips like this in our guide to improving your sex life.

Although there may be times when a man is unable to orgasm and your sex life changes forever, several causes are common and treatable. Furthermore, you shouldn’t assume that the reason he can’t come during sex has anything to do with you. Knowing this, you can remain calm as you search for and try solutions to your man’s anorgasmia and find ways to enjoy sex and remain close no matter what.

Resources

The Wikipedia entry for anorgasmia sheds like on difficulty ejaculating.

In her question to Ask Anna, one reader wonders what’s going on when her boyfriend doesn’t come during sex.

Male users respond to an inquiry about whether they can come from oral sex and if it’s bad that they cannot.

This article on Good Therapy guides you through sensate focus, which can take off the pressure to orgasm and help the two of you connect.

Lori Brotto has researched the effect of mindfulness on sexual function and written a book about it: Better Sex Through Mindfulness. While it’s geared toward women, it may be helpful to men, too.

Frequently Asked Questions

FAQ #1 – Does it mean he’s cheating if he can’t come inside me?

Sometimes intimacy problems arise when one or both partners are cheating. This could come in the form of difficulty becoming aroused (wet or hard), maintaining an erection, or having an orgasm. Similarly, relationship issues can play out in unfavorable ways in the bedroom, even if there is no cheating involved.

However, you shouldn’t necessarily assume this is the reason why your husband can’t come anymore. It may be related to other stresses in his life, a health issue, or simply aging, none of which is a reflection of you or your relationship.

There are other signs to look for to indicate if he’s cheating on you.

FAQ #2 – How do I talk to my husband about why he can’t come?

This is a tricky conversation (or conversations) to have. Don’t fret too much if you struggle to have it. You’re definitely not alone. When a man takes a long time to come, he may feel shame or embarrassment, especially if he’s never struggled with orgasm and ejaculation before. As his partner, you may blame yourself as well; although, it often has nothing to do with you (see previous FAQ and the rest of this article). Both of these things can make having a conversation difficult.

Furthermore, the ability to get and maintain an erection as well as have an orgasm is often tied into a man’s sense of masculinity, so he may be experiencing identity issues. Talking about the fact that he takes a long time to come shines a light on a problem which he may prefer to keep in the dark. It highlights perceived flaws and requires him to be vulnerable. On top of that, he may be worried that it’s a symptom of a bigger issue such as health or relationship issues that he prefers to avoid.

All this to say that how you talk about it is very important. You definitely don’t want to sound like you’re blaming him or that you’re angry or even disappointed. Instead, approach from a place of concern. Use a tone of voice that is loving and gentle. Present yourself as a united front against the issue and stress that it’s not a huge deal and that the two of you can get to the bottom of it together.

You can use the talk as a brainstorming session to find other ways to be intimate and satisfied as well.

If you’re the one broaching the subject, you might want to simply let him know you want to talk about your sex life later to give him the opportunity to get ready for the discussion. Don’t trap him in a public or enclosed place or try to talk about it when he’s busy. In fact, you may want to avoid talking about it in the bedroom at all. Consider bringing it up casually whenever you’re both cleaning or eating and in a relaxed mood.

Find out the best ways to talk about sex.

There’s a chance that he may not want to talk about it. If your instinct is to press, try not to. Let him know you’re not blaming him but you want to find a solution. If he won’t talk to you, perhaps he’ll talk to a doctor. Leave the issue open for him to approach you at a later date if he needs time to come around to the idea.

However, you need to be prepared that he may not want to talk about it at all. Are there ways you can preserve your intimacy and pleasure without talking about his trouble ejaculating at all? Or does it interfere so much that your sex life is miserable? If that’s the case, how much does it impact your relationship? For some people, a miserable sex life is reason enough to end a relationship, and that’s okay.

FAQ #3 – Will Viagra help when a man takes a long time to come?

Viagra helps men who struggle with erection by increasing blood flow to the penis. Because of this, it only works for men who are capable of becoming hard but don’t for whatever reason. It’s not designed to help men who are experiencing difficulty ejaculating.

Related: What You Need To Know About Boners

Nevertheless, research has found that Cialis, another drug that’s used to treat erectile dysfunction, may help ejaculation as well as erection (32).
Orgasm Every Time. Easily. Here’s How…

I want to tell you about my friend Karen.

Karen came to me one day. She was hysterical.

She told me that her marriage was falling apart because she and her husband didn’t have satisfying sex.

Every time they were intimate, Karen was faking her orgasms. It turns out she couldn’t orgasm during sex.

In fact…

She never had an orgasm in her entire life. Not one!

This left her feeling embarrassed and ashamed. And…

She completely hid this from her husband. Thankfully…

It turns out that there is a way for any woman to orgasm. Easily. And have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and masturbation.

I shared the process with Karen.

After she followed the simple process, she could barely come to terms with how…

Quickly and dramatically her sex life changed.

We met up a few months later and…

She would not stop talking about it,

“I thought I was one of those women who couldn’t orgasm. I used to think I was ‘broken’ and ‘unfixable.’ This saved my sex life, and that saved my marriage.”

Even if you currently struggle to orgasm during sex or when masturbating, this process will also work for you.

And best of all, you don’t need to do anything weird or uncomfortable to start having the best orgasms and sex of your life.

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